The Six Conversations

Pathways to Connecting in an Age of Isolation and Incivility

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Heather Holleman and Gary D. Chapman

Notes

  1. Great conversations have:
    1. Be curious
    2. Believe the best 
    3. Express concern 
    4. Share your life
  2. The key to dialoguing effectively in important conversations involves:
    1. Listening
    2. finding common ground
    3. summarizing your conversation partner’s viewpoint
    4. showing how your position ultimately benefits them. 
  3. Three Fresh Goals: 
    1. to mutually encourage 
    2. to aid personal growth 
    3. to marvel
  4. Pitfalls:
    1. Criticizing 
    2. Complaining 
    3. Advice-giving 
    4. Self-absorption 
    5. Divisiveness
    6. Flattery 
    7. Manipulation 
    8. Codependence 
    9. Gossip 
    10. Arrogance
  5. Core values to observe
    1. Integrity
    2. Courage
    3. Humility
    4. good judgment
    5. Authenticity
    6. Self-regulation
    7. Wisdom
    8. Candor
    9. Resilience
    10. Influence
  1. Six conversations (Questions)
    1. Social
    2. Emotional
    3. Physical
    4. Cognitive (Thoughts and Ideas), 
    5. Volitional (Decisions and Actions), 
    6. Spiritual