How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
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Anthony Robbins
Notes
I wrote down:
- All the things I would no longer accept in my life
- All the things I would no longer tolerate
- All the things that I aspired to becomingYour identity is nothing but the decisions you’ve made about who you are, what you’ve decided to fuse yourself with. You become the labels you’ve given yourself. The way you define your identity defines your life.
…the best strategy in almost any case is to find a role model, someone who’s already getting the results you want, and then tap into their knowledge…The most powerful way I’ve learned to compress time is to learn through other people’s experience. We can never truly master time as long as our primary strategy for learning and mastering our world is based upon trial and error. Modeling those who’ve already succeeded can save you years of pain.
…there are key leverage points within your life that, if you make one small change, will literally transform every aspect of your life… Different actions produce different results… it’s your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you’re going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny… It’s likely that whatever challenges you have in your life currently could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream…there are no failures in life. There are only results.
If we link massive pain to any behavior or emotional pattern, we will avoid indulging in it at all costs. We can use this understanding to harness the force of pain and pleasure to change virtually anything in our lives… most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences… All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs…we’re responsible for our own change, not anyone else…Nothing could be more crippling to a person’s ability to take action than learned helplessness; it is the primary obstacle that prevents us from changing our lives or taking action to help other people change theirs.
Ultimately, in order for a change to last, we must:
- Link pain to our old behavior
- Link pleasure to our new behavior
- Condition (the new behavior) until it’s consistentRemember, we will all do more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure.
Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.
In life, never spend more than 10 percent of your time on the problem, and spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution.
…as long as we structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, then we will experience pain.
Relationships
- If you don’t know the values and rules of the people with whom you share a relationship, you should prepare for pain.
- The only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
- Make your relationships one of the highest priorities in your life;
- If you want your relationship to last, never, never, never, ever, ever threaten the relationship itself.